Message from John Shea
June 17, 2013 9:00 AM
My condolences to Kim's family and to the Biosafety Community from the Boston Public Health Commission, Environmental Health Office. Kim's work as a fellow biosafety professional at several Boston research institutions to keep our community safe was appreciated and she will be missed.
Message from Farm Friends
June 5, 2013 2:55 PM
I just read the newspaper article in the Enterprise. We are heartbroken and so upset that we did not know what you were enduring. We would have helped had we known. We should have known how bad it was. To Kim's brother and sister our deepest sympathy and our apologies for not being a better friend to Kim. We should have paid more attention. Kim, you were the best of the best, a trooper and a loyal and faithful friend. We miss you and the boys.
Message from Just a friend
May 24, 2013 4:50 PM
Just thinking about you Kim as Memorial Day is upon us. You are missed today and always. I think of you every single day and hope that you are at peace. Heaven must be full of laughter with you there but we sure do miss you here on the planet earth. Your bright light was dimmed, but the warmth of your glow will be with all of us who loved you for eternity. I know we will see you again but that does not lessen the hurt of missing you now.
Message from Joshua
May 6, 2013 2:10 PM
I just heard this unbelievably tragic news. How could this possibly happen to someone so smart and loving and kind and young? Given what I know I have to say unfortunately I think I know how this happened. This is so sad and such a travesty and unfair, unjust and just plain wrong. My deepest sympathies and heartfelt condolences to those of you who loved Kim and are truly grieving her loss as I am.
Message from Nancy Anders
April 10, 2013 5:32 PM
So sorry for your loss. Kim was one in a million and will be greatly missed by all of us who knew her. My deepest condolences to her family at this time of such great sadness.
Message from R. J. Dean
March 26, 2013 5:01 PM
I just heard this news from a colleague. My deepest condolences to both the Parker and Boleza families. You captured her essence so well in the obit. So terrible to lose someone so vibrant and full of life at such a young age. Kim was respected by all of us who worked with her. I had more than my share of disagreements with her over protocols but in the end she always proved she was right and I would end up doing what she said. She had the power but was never on the power trip so many people in her position embark on. She will be missed.
R. J. Dean
Message from Steve & Nancy Fiander
March 24, 2013 1:48 PM
We were so sad to learn about Kim's passing after the services and tributes. Blessings to all and may your wonderful memories of Kim bring smiles and comfort.
Steve & Nancy
Message from A friend of the Boleza's
March 23, 2013 4:06 PM
The following is the text of Kim's sister's eulogy - it so sums up who Kim was, and what she meant to so many, I thought I would post it here for those who did not hear it. Steph, I hoped you don't mind.
On behalf of Rich, Ed, and I, and the rest of Kim's family, thank you for being with us today. Kim was an amazing person. If you knew her well, you know that already and I don't have to tell you. If you were not blessed enough to have known Kim well, I will tell you that knowing her was a joy and a gift.
To Kim’s family, she will always be here with us, in our hearts and in our memories. Each of us could share a hundred stories of Kim…. and we have done that over the last 6 days. I had the honor and the joy of having 45 years with my sister, and it was no where near enough time.
Kim did not have what you would call a traditional upbringing. There were lots of loving hands that shaped Kim into the person she became. Many of those people are here today. I hope all of you who were part of that journey are as proud of who she was as Ed and I are. Kim loved unconditionally, was the definition of the word loyal, was the most honest person I have ever known, and was as smart as she was kind. Kim was everything good the world has to offer wrapped up in one package.
Kim was taken from us far too early, but that did not stop her from accomplishing more than many do who have the gift of lots more time. I don't worry that Kim will ever be forgotten. She was too much a force of love for that to ever happen. If ever you have doubted that one person can make a difference....look around you. Everyone here in this church today is here because in some way, Kim touched their lives and made a difference. In honor of Kim and what she meant to you, please find a way to continue that legacy and make a difference in someone's life. Kim showed us how to do that, let's all follow her example.
Message from John Sullivan
March 22, 2013 11:43 AM
Paula just told me about the remark about getting “back to normal” made by your employer. Hang tough and be thankful that people like that are few and far between in this world. The rest of us get this, don’t let one stupid remark by some pitiful excuse for a human cause you any more pain. She is not worth it. Remember, not everyone in the world is nice. Kim was worth millions of her, and she would not want you to waste one more minute of your time on what she said, so for Kim’s sake, ignore her. And I hope everyone that reads these condolence notes recognizes who you are talking about.
Message from A friend
March 21, 2013 1:36 PM
Sometimes even the flight of an angel hits turbulence.
Kim you may be gone from us, but you will NEVER be forgotten.
Message from Mike Reagan
March 21, 2013 12:00 PM
OMG! I am shocked to hear this news. I worked with Kim several years ago at MGH and learned so much from her. Kim was so full of life I can not imagine she is gone. My deepest sympathies to her family.
Message from Kathy Joseph
March 20, 2013 1:57 PM
Thank you for the invitation to join the family at the Abington Ale House although I wasn’t able to participate. I knew Kim when she was at Childrens and she hired me here at Tufts. I heard about lots of happy times with Kim but I know you supported each other in tough times. Kim talked about trying to be a good health care proxy and the support she had from her brother in court. May the peace that comes from the memories of family love comfort you and yours now and in the days ahead.
Kathy Joseph, RBP
Tufts University/Tufts Medical Center
200 Harrison Ave (Posner Hall)
Boston, MA 02111
Message from Michele Adams
March 20, 2013 1:35 PM
I worked with Kim many years ago at Amego when she would drive to work in the winter on her motorcycle and hope her brother or sister would pick her up if it snowed with they always did. I have not seen her in many, many years, but she was someone you don’t ever forget. She was great with the clients, and just as great with her co-workers. My sympathy to all of you for your loss.
Message from Marcus
March 19, 2013 5:24 PM
Kim you were taken from us far too soon. The bio-safety world lost someone of tremendous value with a keen and analytical mind, and we are all the worse for that loss.
Message from A Friend of "Berly"
March 18, 2013 12:33 PM
I can not even begin to imagine the anguish you are experiencing now. You loved her so much, and I hope you know that she felt the same way about you, and about Ed. I grew up with Kim, and we use to joke all the time about how Ed would track her down at the fort to make her come home, and how Steph would buy her clothes hoping to have her dress a little bit more normal, which of course Kim would return at the first opportunity. Both you and Ed were the source of lots of laughter among Kim's friends, but always with love. I know how much she depended on you both over the last few years. She mentioned to me just in the last few days that she could never remember a time when you (Steph) had ever said no to her, or had ever not given her whatever she needed or wanted. How many people can say that about someone in their lives.....not many I suspect. Kim had the guts to be independent, and the heart to be compassionate, and the strength to be loyal, and the comfort that family always comes first, because those are the values you taught her. As kids and young adults we use to feel bad for Kim because she had no parents. Now, I envy her the loving and supportive family that she had, and the fact that never once in her life did she ever, ever doubt that you had her back Steph. She had the courage to attempt things that were tough because she knew beyond any doubt that you would catch her every time she fell, and you did. I never met her niece and nephew, but I do know that she felt Patrick was exactly like her. I will be watching to see what great things he accomplishes if he continues to follow in her footsteps. Patrick, you have big shoes to fill, but listen to your father and your aunt Stephanie. They raised the strongest, smartest, most compassionate and most loved person I have ever known. The lessons they taught Kim made her that way. They will do the same for you.
With deepest condolences,
A friend of Berly
Message from Jim McGinty
March 18, 2013 10:31 AM
Rich, we will keep you in our prayers.
Message from Marie and Mark
March 18, 2013 10:19 AM
This is unreal. I can not believe someone so young and full of life can be gone so quickly. She was so kind, thoughtful and caring. They say only the good die young, and this is a testimony to the truth of that statement. She deserved much better, and much longer. To her brother and sister and their families, 8 our deepest sympathy.
Message from Jean and Bill Ballou
March 17, 2013 7:29 PM
Our prayers are with all of you during this very difficult time.
Message from Randy Ryan
March 17, 2013 5:45 PM
To the Boleza and Parker familes,
My deepest condolences on your tragic loss. Kim was one of the smartest and most dedicated people I have ever worked with, and she is greatly missed by those of us in the bio-safety field. She rarely talked about her personal life, but when she did, it was about her neice and nephews who she adored, about her brother who she said gave her the love of science and adventure, and her sister, who she said gave her the sense of always being loved and the importance of family. I think Kim will continue to be a presence in the lives of all of us who knew her.
Message from A. C. Betenfield
March 17, 2013 1:44 PM
Ed and Stephanie,
You don't know me, but I feel I know both of you through my conversations at grad school with Kim. She told the funniest stories about growing up with you two in the lead roles. She never felt that she had missed anything even though she grew up in a very odd situation. She always said she had a fun childhood, except for when Ed would show up on his bike to make her come home. See she really did share those stories. I wish I could have been there to say good-bye, but I just found out this morning about your loss. Please know that those of us who went to school with Kim in South Carolina thought she was one of a kind and lots of fun. My sinceree condolences on such a huge loss for your familes, and for the world.
Message from Rebecca DeMornay
March 16, 2013 3:25 PM
To the Boleza family,
What a beautiful service it was today. I have learned so much more about Kim than I knew previously in the last few days. As your obituary states, she truly was an amazing woman. It was apparent from today's service that she was loved by many, and will be missed by all who knew her. My heart is heavy for your loss. I hope you can take comfort from knowing that you showed everyone in that church today how much she was loved, how proud you all were of her, and how full a life Kim led. Kim's niecee and nephew did her proud, her friends showed us the fun side of Kim, and her sister reminded us all of what Kim's legacy will be, how many lives she touched, and how she will never be forgotten. She was a treasure and will be deeply missed.
Message from A St. Francis ancians Friend
March 15, 2013 11:01 AM
Stephanie, Ed and your families.
I was shocked and sadded to hear this news. None of us who marched together will ever forget Kim in her pjs with her hair up in curlers marching with us carrying a stick as a flag pole or a rifle. I think we all felt a part of her upbringing, as no matter whatever where the two of you were, she was with you. Kim was a tribute to the great job you both did in a terrible situation raising someone has healthy, happy and wise as Kim was. She will be missed.....but lots of people.
Message from Laura (McNally) Montgomery
March 14, 2013 7:30 PM
Rich, Thoughts & Prayers Go out to You & Your Family,
Very sudden,very sad, God Bless!
Message from Sue Flaherty Sargeant
March 14, 2013 6:25 PM
To Ed and Stephanie and your familys,
So sorry to hear this sad news. I will always remember Kim as a happy and kind person....the little sister you both adored! What a beautiful tribute write up on this website. Please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. May her wit and laughter and your wonderful memories of her always remain in your minds and hearts forever!
Message from Eileen (Healy) McNally
March 14, 2013 8:27 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about Kim's passing. I played in drumming bugle with her and then later on in life went to high school together. She was very nice to everyone. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Message from Rebecca Caruso
March 14, 2013 7:09 AM
Dear Parker and Boleza Families:
I am so sorry to hear of Kim's passing.
She was a colleague of mine in the biosafety field and was always wonderful to speak with! She had a great passion for her work and always a smile and warm personality. I know she will be missed by many.
Harvard Medical School
Message from Jay Fehan
March 14, 2013 12:42 AM
I'm so sorry to hear about Kim's passing. I had the pleasure of going to school with Kim and she was such a sweetheart. My condolences to her entire family.
Message from John King
March 13, 2013 10:34 PM
I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I have notified some of my colleagues at Tufts.
I very much enjoyed working with Kim. She cared very much about her work, the university and our department. She worked many long hours making sure our Biosafety program met the needs of the university and the many regulations required by the state and federal government. She was a pleasure to work with and had a great personality and sense of humor. She was a very responsible member of our team. Since my departure from Tufts, I often wondered how she was doing. She will be remembered in my prayers.
John M King
Director of Public Safety
Chief of Police
Message from Rosanne Giuliano
March 13, 2013 10:08 PM
To Kim's family....I am so sad to hear of Kim's passing....Kim came to Tufts in my department after I left...Meeting her a few times was all it took to know what kind of a person she is...There aren't too many nice people left in this world and now she has gone to Heaven to make a better place up there as well. My heart is heavy for her and her family and I'm praying that all your memories will help you in the days to come.....She is for sure an ANGEL of GOD watching down on all of you..Rest in peace Kim and thank you for making our world a better place while you were here...
formerly of EHS Dept.
Message from Melissa Ainslie-Shea
March 13, 2013 8:55 PM
I am so sorry to hear of Kim's passing. We went to Jr High together and being an A and B name we were in homeroom together. My sincerest sympathies to her family. friends and loved ones.
Message from Carol Telles
March 13, 2013 1:03 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Message from Beth Heffner
March 13, 2013 9:05 AM
I am so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Message from Andrew Kenneally
March 12, 2013 12:20 PM
Very sorry for your loss.
Message from Jan Hastie
March 12, 2013 9:30 AM
I am so sorry. My prayers are with you and your family.